Classic american dating for singles
When there are plenty of marriageable men, dating culture emphasizes courtship and romance, and men generally must earn more to attract a wife.But when gender ratios skew toward women, as they do today among college grads, the dating culture becomes more sexualized.The good news, at least according to the work of psychologists and sex-ratio pioneers Marcia Guttentag and Paul Secord, is that people tend to have better sex when ratios skew female. Women frequently wind up being treated as sex objects, and men are more inclined to exercise the option to delay marriage and play the field.According to data from the Census Bureau’s American Community Survey, there are now 5.5 million college-educated women in the United States between the ages of 22 and 29 vs. In other words, the dating pool for straight, millennial, college graduates has four women for every three men.No wonder some men are in no rush to settle down and more women are giving up on what used to be called “playing hard to get.” These demographics represent the true dating apocalypse, as stacks of social science show how dating and mating behavior is influenced by prevailing sex ratios.In 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated from American colleges, and the U. Department of Education expects this gap to reach 47 percent by 2023.The imbalance has spilled over into the post-college dating scene.
Given the shortage of young men in post-World War I Europe — 10 million soldiers died and 20 million were wounded, many grievously — Bernard wonders why any bachelor would want to settle down. Today’s hookup culture does have one big thing in common with the ’20s flapper generation, and that is demographics. There are too many women and they’re all too easy to make it worthwhile.” I was reminded of this while reading Vanity Fair’s much-publicized piece, “Tinder and the Dating Apocalypse,” which naively blames today’s “hookup culture” on the popularity of a three-year-old dating app.In the Vanity Fair article, David Buss, a University of Texas psychology professor, says that apps like Tinder contribute to “a perceived surplus of women,” among straight men, which in turn leads to more hookups and fewer traditional relationships.Here’s the thing: This surplus of women is not just “perceived” but very, very real.There’s a scene in “The Fires of Autumn,” Irene Nemirovsky’s novel set in 1920s France, in which a young war widow named Therese thinks she is being courted for marriage by her childhood friend Bernard — only to discover that he wants nothing more than a fling. I say “naively” because it’s not the first time some newfangled technology has been mistakenly blamed for young people having more sex. But the moralizers of Nemirovsky’s era fooled themselves into believing that the automobile was to blame for loosening sexual mores.
He, in turn, is baffled by her unwillingness to carry on a casual affair. “A house of prostitution on wheels” was how one judge described it at the time.