Dating profile photographer
So I’m thinking of upgrading mine to get out of this dry spell.However, I have one worry about getting better photos: If I dress up really nicely, get my hair done, and get photographed in flattering lighting, won’t I look different in my photos than I will on a first date?Lately, though, I have this weird dry spell: I still get contacted, but can’t seem to make it to a first date.I know that you recommend that people use really great, perhaps professionally done, photos.But since other people do, remember this other pet theory of mine: your date will most likely be 20% worse looking than his/her best photo. For what it’s worth, I have used professional photographers three different times, and each time, it’s made a marked difference in my visibility and response rate.This doesn’t mean posting a photo from five years and twenty pounds ago.But if it means getting a clear, digital, close-up of you smiling with your hair and makeup done just right, I wholeheartedly endorse it.
After all, a first Internet date is generally a casual daytime meetup, so I wouldn’t be sporting a nice hairstyle or tons of makeup, nor would I be posing under rosy, forgiving lights.I’m really quite interested in trying to figure out why you’re going through a dry spell, but that wasn’t your primary question. Anyway, here’s my theory on professional photography: Due to the enormous competition, you want to maximize your chance of getting a first date.You might be more comfortable wearing sweatpants at home, but that doesn’t mean you wear it to a job interview. And nothing gives you a better chance to get a first date than an amazing photo of you at your BEST.That said, I’ve always held onto this one photography maxim in regards to online dating profiles: Which is why it baffles me that people take professional headshots and then put up a few god-awful mug shots drunkenly taken on a webcam. That kind of stuff, which reveals a personality that pro shots tend to obscure….Anyone who clicks through is going to assume that you look like the drunkard, not the professional. And when you get your pro shots, just put up two of them – one close-up as your primary picture, and one full-body shot as your fourth or fifth picture.
So if you’re going to go the professional route – and I encourage you to – make sure you also have a bunch of real-life digital photographs that have context. As long as you look like the same person in each photo, you will not risk the possibility of misrepresenting yourself.