Online dating correspondence etiquette
So if someone contacts you and they aren't your type or don’t tick your boxes, don’t just ignore them.
Respond to them in a way you would like to be responded to.
Dating etiquette still applies online so in order to succeed, here are some basic principles that must still be adhered to.
What not to say in a first message I can’t tell you how many times I have seen guys (and it's always guys) crash and burn with an inane ‘wanna chat’ first message - just those two words, nothing else.
Most likely you would think of a polite way to let them down, for example ‘sorry I’m not looking for a relationship’ or ‘I’ve already got a boyfriend/girlfriend’ sort of thing.
Unfortunately, you can’t get away with these excuses online because, well, let’s face it, you are looking for a relationship and that’s entirely why you’ve come here.
Something that says ‘Hey, I took the time to read your profile, we seem to have things in common and I’d like to know more about you, if you like my profile too’ (not literally though! How to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’If you were approached in a bar by someone you weren’t that interested in you wouldn’t just ignore them, would you?The obvious response to this message is ‘no’, because quite frankly, if ‘wanna chat’ is the best you can come up with in an attempt to stand out from the competition then you're going to get nowhere fast.Your first message, your first point of contact with someone you like the look of on the site, needs to stand out and catch their eye.Now, I’ve seen people respond badly to this kind of message almost in a child-like ‘yeah well I didn’t fancy you anyway’ manner. Be grateful that the person has taken the time to actually respond and do the only thing you can do in this situation.With dating comes an unwritten code of behaviour, which is more commonly known as ‘Dating Etiquette’.
The internet may have revolutionised age-old rituals of courtship and created an entirely new etiquette for online dating, but just because you’re sat behind a computer, doesn’t mean you should abandon them altogether.